Discoveries in Kingdom Spouse journey

As I navigate the dating season in this time of my life, I discovered something unique that I wanted to share with you that may help you on your kingdom spouse journey.

In my time of waiting on the Lord, I became desperate, hungry and thirsty for what seemed to be reasonable natural pursuits:

• Love
• Companionship
• date night's
• Someone to talk to
• a Christian; someone to talk to about God
• Care And compassion from another
• sensitivity/ gentleness/touch
• someone to witness my journey
• physical attractiveness

Because I desired these many things, I used this checklist as the criteria to validate whether or not someone was sent by God.

Turns out there was something that superseded all of these things and that I would fail to feel fulfillment or peace until I had this one paramount, crucial item that I truly need.

I now know this one thing is what I need to look for first and foremost.

Now I say this because, knowing that this person is who God desires me to be with is a given.

I do believe that God will give me the desires of my heart knowing that God has already given my heart what to desire.

Do you know what your truest heart desire is when it comes to a Kingdom spouse?

I realized the reason that I had not achieved success in finding "the one" is because I had not spent enough time dialing in what my heart truly wanted and needed.

What I know now for sure is that I desire... inspiration. It is a MUST and now a non-negotiable.

I want to be inspired by the way someone

thinks,

lives,

speaks,

behaves.

I want to see an element that is expansive and has the imprint of God on it.

If so, all of the other criteria will naturally be included.

If I want this, I have to become this.

Have you become what it is that you are looking for?

It is unfair to be in demand of something you do not already posess.

You will be the weight that they will constantly have to drag around and pull up and I do not want anyone to have to bear this burden with me.

So for now, I am no longer hungering, thirsting or desperate for another

I am redirecting those efforts into becoming

mentally,

physically,

emotionally,

and spiritually

healthy, sound and thriving in every aspect of my being.

As I become,

 I know God will allow me to see the man on that same path who is an alignment with who I have become and what I am becoming.

Until then, I am no longer looking or searching.

I leave it into God's hands.

My advice:

Spend time with yourself thinking about what you truly need and want.

Pray for that.

Become that.

Then before you commit to another, spend time ensuring they posess that.

Learn what's in their heart. Do not merely go off of what is said. Unfortunately, many people have not spent enough time in self reflection or exploration to truly evaluate and know themselves enough to accurately represent themselves to you.

Finally, ensure you have peace with that person. God is a God of peace. If he or she is from God, you will not only have an attraction, a pull, a magnetism, but also peace.

Waiting on the person God has for you is worth it. Your destiny depends on it.

Holy Spirit:

Do you trust me Jennifer to truly add all things to you to include a spouse if you seek my Kingdom and my righteousness first? I know not only what you want, but also what you need in your life as it relates to your past, present and future. Trust me with your today and your tomorrow. Trust me with your destiny. Focus on me and what I desire you to do. Work on yourself. Let's see some sweat equity out of you. Find contentment where you are and will add more to you when you are able to appropriately manage what you have.Trust my timing Jennifer. I will not fail you.